Play with Power & Gender through Dance

a 3 month spiritual kinky dance immersion

Oct 5, 2024 - Jan 4, 2025, in Sebastopol, CA

Meet quality folx from across the larger Bay Area.

Curious if this is for you?

• Do you love connecting on the dance floor?

• Are you interested in Dominance & submission as a spiritual path?

• Are you seeking new sensual playful connections?

• Do you love deconstructing race & gender conditioning to replace it with a culture of love?

• Do you value secure attachment & conscious relationship design?

If your heart lit up reading these... you might feel called to join us!

What does it look like ?

Power dynamics are present all the time, kink is about making power dynamics exquisitely clear, creative, consensual, and passionate. We will deconstruct how being socialized as a woman or a man has shaped our desires and our beliefs about power and safety. We will explore conscious power play through danced duets. Want to adventure into desires that are at the edge of your comfort with a compassionate and present companion? Curious about embodying your dominant energy or your submissive energy in the dance?

This immersion invites us to contribute to each others’ erotic courage, vulnerability, and playful expression so we can create more meaningful intimacy. We will explore through curated dance duets, cultural deconditioning, relational attunement and desire skills. You are free to discover and ask for what you really want in a compassionate space that does not shame your wants. This is also an empowering space to say “no” to strengthen your boundaries and voice them with certainty. We will be practicing consent as we learn how to create a culture of shame resilience, attune to our own eros and healthy limits, track the nervous system of a partner, distinguish who touch is for, and explore our gender expression. Please note while we may share erotic energy we will be keeping our underwear on.

Benefits:

Relationship Benefits

• Clarify your relationship intentions and practice sharing them

• Make relationship choices from a grounded, discerning and compassionate place

• Notice and interrupt codependency

• Be more present for your life and your loves

• Create more spacious, authentic, and secure relationships

• Connect with kinky dance community

• Better attune to your own pleasure and not override your needs and boundaries

• Build shame resilience and grace for receiving feedback from loved ones

• Practice being a safe person for people to share vulnerable desires with

Erotic Benefits

• Discover or deepen your connection with your energetic cock or energetic pussy

• Connect more authentically and euphorically with your experience of gender

• Discover what arouses you as a Dom and as a sub sexually, emotionally, and spiritually

• Distinguish who touch is for in the moment, refine how you play with sensation vs power

• Create a culture of shame resilience and respect around sexual desires

• Experience your personal eros as a part of a larger collective embodiment of passion and liberation

• Expand your orgasm (students often responded with “WOW. I didn’t know a body could do that!”)

Fall 2024 cohort dates

All applicants are required to attend 1 intro, if you have not already.

Intros

1. Sat, Aug 10, 1 - 4 pm (Oakland)

2. Sat, Sept 7, 3 - 6 pm (Sebastopol)

3. Sun, Sept 15, 2 - 5 pm (Oakland)

4. Sun, Sept 22, 1:30 - 4:30 pm (Sebastopol)

Immersion (Sebastopol)

1. Sat, Oct 5, 2 - 6 pm

2. Sat, Oct 19, 2 - 6 pm

Optional Relational Mapping: Mon, Oct 28, 6 - 8 pm (online, open to loved ones, included in tuition)

3. Sat, Nov 2, 2 - 6 pm

4. Sat, Nov 16, 2 - 6 pm

5. Sat, Nov 23, 1 - 7 pm DEEP DIVE WEEKEND

6. Sun, Nov 24, 1 - 7 pm DEEP DIVE WEEKEND

7. Sat, Dec 7, 2 - 6 pm

Optional Grief Eros Ritual: Sat, Dec 14, 12:45 - 8:30 pm (in person, open to loved ones, not included in tuition)

8. Sat, Dec 21, 2 - 6 pm

9. Sat, Jan 4, 2 - 6 pm + grad party til 11 pm (invite your loved ones)

Time Commitment

• 9 village sessions above

• Daily presence practice (approximately 20 min)

• 1 to 3 hours of homework assignments after each session to practice & integrate what we learn. This includes both solo & small group assignments to deepen connection with other participants.

• Optional two 30 min 1:1 coaching sessions with Z

Investment

This group is intentionally small and not for everyone. This is an advanced training and village building experience. Investing is not just about money, it’s about choosing to focus your time and energy to grow your presence, your relationships, and your erotic expression. There are monthly payment plans & 3 tiers for us to collaborate with our community wealth:

1. $4500 (proximal to generational wealth & who want to support diversity scholarships)

2. $3500 (financially resourced folx)

3. $2500 (limited # of partial scholarships for low income folx who are BIPOC, trans, and/or gender non conforming)

Testimonials

I’m grateful for how you’ve helped me to slow down and do the work that I needed to do but didn’t want to do… grief and self-attunement work.

Power and play with Z is a profound and unique experience to get to explore eros and power, which are the building blocks of relational trust and vibrancy. The container held is deeply safe, yet appropriately edgy. Z is really grounded in helping us to find our authentic, vulnerable, bright and true expressions. Z also holds a clear consciousness around race, gender and other socialized power dynamics. This work is liberatory in all senses of the word. - H Cowart, Animist, Mythic Storyteller, PsyDc, SEP

I didn’t know a body could do that until I saw you do breath and energy orgasms, that's when I started having kundalini awakening!

I learned life-changing skills & technologies about being present to pleasure in my body. I learned how to ground & get in touch with my personal power.” - Veenaa Saynana, Relationship & Tantric Coach, Medicine Woman

Play helped me connect with my erotic energy in a deep, vulnerable, playful way. I have such a more clear visceral sense of what deeply healing power dynamics feel like. To play with power in this way is so deeply liberating, joyful, and helped me process so much.” - Somatic Psychotherapist

This experience will change you. I came away from Play with a sense of grounded security in myself. I experienced an abundance of erotic & source energy. I opened to the endlessness possibilities & magic this life has to offer.” - Mo Katzman, Dancer & Teacher

Play is a container for practicing co-liberation. It allowed me to connect my desire & eros to my larger prayer for collective healing & collaborating across caste. - Activist, Dancer, Creator of Community

Play is not just about gender & sexuality. It’s about coming home to yourself & your belonging to a wide web of love & eros. That’s when you learn what it really feels like to play.” - Dylan C-H, Dancer, Therapist

You will learn that kink isn’t just ropes and floggers, it much more than that. This workshop will bring you closer to yourself, your patterns, your desires, and expand your emotional range. I am able to stay connected to myself while connecting with others more than ever before. - Charlie, Dancer

There is so much possibility for safety-making, discovery of desire and authenticity, and transforming our experience of these bodies in the care of community with the ritual guidance of Z, the worlds we dream of feel possible! - Bea, Sex & Reproductive Health Educator

These tools & practices awakened parts of my identity I longed to have the space to explore. - Alex Kennedy

Z’s passion for liberation through dance power and play is contagious. They bring spaces alive with their magical presence. - Joy Jaco LMFT

Z has a vastness of embodied wisdom, and a compassionate, yet clear and firm leadership style. Their awareness of systemic oppression and realities inform this playful gender-bending, work that at the core is about love, connection and liberation for all! - Julia, Filmmaker & Activist

Brought so much clarity, discernment, and opportunities for authentic connection. I found depth and ease exploring my own edges & the edges of our beautiful collective group in a playful boundaried and creative way. - Rebecca Studer

I discovered a new found respect through experiential learning for gender expression and the value of eros that will serve me in both personal and professional context to create more inclusion, inspiration and love in the world. - Daniel Swid, Facilitator

Play was transformational for me. I entered with the hope that I could access more of myself, be honest about my insecurities, and stay connected to my heart center while doing all of this. I got this and much more! I had the honor of hearing others' desires and wishes and to be witnessed in my own. I grew in ways that I did not expect. I highly recommend any of their offerings if you are excited about living an authentic life!

Facilitation Team

🏳️‍🌈 Z (aka Zahava Griss, lead facilitator, they/them) dancer, love coach, & kink educator for personal & cultural liberation. Z has delighted in guiding erotic community ritual for 25 years. You may read the full bio here.

🏳️‍🌈 E. Lowry (assistant, they/them) trauma informed kink explorer & guide for 10 years.

🏳️‍🌈 Charlie Boyd Brown (assistant, they/them) dancer, bodyworker, teacher, who brings people together for connection, expression, & healing.