Love Coaching

I coach individuals and couples who are interested in the spiritual growth of:

  • secure attachment

  • polyamory (authentic relationship design)

  • gender beyond the binary

  • dominance & submission

My clients are established and aspiring coaches, healers, sexuality professionals, therapists, dance and yoga teachers devoted to personal and cultural liberation. My clients are asking “who do we need to be in these times as love leaders and healers?” My clients are pleasure activists, gender alchemists, and compassion catalysts. You all support others and this gets to be a space for YOU to be well held, grow your skills, and embody the love you long to share generously.

How I define kink

“Sexual desires, behaviors, and identities, that challenge social approval, giving you the opportunity to explore your courage, shame, pleasure, and liberation." ~ Z Griss

Benefits of coaching with me

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  • Presence is the foundation for desire, consent, and connection. Learn 5 energy practices to come home to presence. Notice when you go into pattern by leaving, merging, enduring, intensifying, or constricting. Shift from pattern to presence. These basic skills interrupt a trauma response. They also give you a bridge from high emotion back to your agency, choice, and discernment.

    • Learn embodied practices to ground, focus, expand, receive and integrate energy

    • Discover the physical and energetic sensations of your arousal system. Refine how you observe your experience. Guide yourself toward more or less arousal as you choose.

    • Practice breath, self touch, and mindset tools to deepen your presence, compassion, and play.

    • Experience and track your somatic anchors to transition gracefully from restful internal sanctuary to a big expansive energy back to restful internal sanctuary.

    • Experience and track your somatic anchors to transition gracefully from self attunement to relational connection back to self attunement.

    • Build shame resilience and internal permission to be who you really are in ritual space as you explore eros through dance, voice, breath, and touch.

    • Expand your creative impulses with supportive witnessing and acknowledgement.

    • Connect to your blood and chosen ancestors who inspire your beauty and eros.

    • Dance for aliveness and spiritual homecoming.

    • Clarify your life and relationship intentions to make aligned choices with grace.

    • Create an erotic life map to see the larger journey you are on in an empowering context.

    • Define your core values that reflect who you really are.

    • Learn how to turn to your core values in times of challenge so you can live from them in a way that roots, resources, and steadies you.

    • Observe and design how you use 6 forms of energy: time, money, creativity, vitality, support, and savoring.

    • Design goals and a vision that light up your soul and demonstrate your soul archetypes and core values.

  • Are you stressed about time, money, health, or contributing your soul gifts? Growing your relationships may be challenging when you are stressed or unfulfilled in other vital areas of your life. As your coach I will guide you to see a vision for your life that centers what’s most important, and locates your relationships harmoniously inside your larger life vision. In this model, success is doing what you said you would do, consistently, with clarity, focus, ease, and grace.

    • Take authentic action consistently that demonstrates your clarity about what is most important to you.

    • Cultivate daily focus on what’s most important to you and the next step for today.

    • Bring ease by breaking things into small sweet steps and calling in support along the way.

    • Experience grace by noticing what you are grateful for and seeing the larger meaning that this moment has in your life path.

    • Explore specific sex magic practices for unique intentions including: to heal, to clarify what is not yet clear, to upgrade your relationships with a person, the collective, or your ancestors

    • Clarify your soul archetypes so you can make yourself available to the roles your soul is here to play.

    • Embody your soul archetypes through personal ritual, erotic play, community ritual, and the life dreams and goals you focus on daily.

    • Earn secure attachment with self regulation and co-regulation practices to create harmony whether you and your beloved are close or spacious.

    • Clarify, design, and savor the power dynamics in your scene and/or relationships in a way that honors your attachment system.

    • Create an exit plan for a graceful separation, whether or not it is needed.

photo by @altered.perspective

Individual Coaching

12 sessions, 1 hour every 2 weeks, for 6 months with email support between sessions

$1000/month x 6 months

Couples Coaching

24 sessions over 6 months with email support between sessions

  • Week 1: person A

  • Week 2: person B

  • Week 3: both

  • Repeat this cycle 8 times

$1000/month per person x 6 months

Hours

I am available Mon - Thurs, 12 - 5 pm pst.

Investment

My coaching practice is intentionally small and not for everyone. If we work together I will bring my highest level of support and presence. Investing in coaching is not just about money, it’s about choosing to focus your time and energy to transform your life NOW, not “someday.” It’s about saying YES to having the erotic, spiritual, relational journey your soul came here to have and being supported as you take your next steps.

This is not for you if

  • You seek sexual arousal without a larger spiritual context

  • You don’t have the time, money, and focus to devote to 6 months of transformation (my group events and books may be more aligned)

  • You want me to heal you (healing and growth comes from within you, I am simply a guide and present witness)

  • You want to date me

  • You are currently focusing on healing from addiction (honoring that courageous and important work, it will likely better serve you to work with someone else who specializes in that)

This is for you if

  • You are already exploring eros as a spiritual path and you want to go deeper

  • You are focusing on your erotic, spiritual, and relational journey now and you want support

  • You are willing to open to a new way of thinking and being for personal and cultural liberation

  • You are here for the homework, the self practices, the new ways to observe

  • You are moved by the cultural shift in the image below: