Working with Zahava created a soft openness and delicious awareness of my inner strength, balance and beauty.- Isabella, Massage Therapist, Yoga Instructor, Health Coach
I can happily say working with Zahava was one of the most profound spiritual journeys I’ve had the good fortune of experiencing in my life.- Diana Ferrante, Women’s Empowerment Leader, Intuitive Advisor
Zahava's work has returned me to the natural state of being my most loving and most beloved self. - Emily Tepper, Receptivity Coach & Craniosacral Therapist
This was exactly what I needed to rebalance myself. I was able to release the week’s stress and gain confidence in being the clear minded and moving bodied me that I want to be. - An overworking teacher
Zahava gave me the nurturing excavation tools to my inner realms that have been yearning to moan, be touched, to be remembered, honored, revered, and celebrated.- Jennifer Maeve
This work not only supported me grounding in my own feminine experience, but it translated into my work as a coach--allowing a new depth of connection with my clients and their own sacred and sexual journeys.- Dana, Certified Life Coach
Thank you for holding and creating such beautiful space for my own feminine to unfold and reveal herself to me through my body.- Elizabeth Joy Mueller, Business Coach & Intuitive Guide

rituals with Zahava

Power & Surrender: More than “Getting Off”

I received the most exquisite gift this summer during my East Coast tour.  Joyce came to my workshop, Pelvis Basin of Power & Surrender, in Washington, DC.  The letter she wrote me after brought me to tears.  This, THIS, is my greatest hope for people to experience sexual energy for healing ourselves and our society.  Thank you Joyce for coming into my life, for journeying so deep, for writing these words, and for giving me permission to share them here.
Dear Zahava,
I never knew that this kind of work would be “for me.” I always thought it was kinda “out there” and untouchable.  But you got me right into the body, connected it with science, education, and paired it with feeling and things unseen.  I experienced a huge shift for myself not just in my pelvic sensation but a deeper connection to purpose beyond just me.  I had no idea how potent my passion and conviction for humanity is (that people feel safe to be in full self expression.) Honestly this workshop connected me to my calling. For years I have felt lost in the grind of “paying my dues” and “climbing the ladder” that I forgot who I am, what I love, what’s important to me.  In the workshop I reconnected with my original love, my clarity, my passion for service.
Usually I walk around the streets of DC with a kind of anger or “fed up” ness burning in me. I resent the people around me and how they take up the whole sidewalk, how people on bicycles do whatever the heck they want, how cars never yield. I hate the pace, I hate the rush, I hate I hate… that’s the cloud I usually have when walking around the city. Yesterday there was a shift.
I showed up to the Smith Center for the Healing Arts and was a bit nervous, but more curious than anything. I enjoyed every aspect of the workshop, from start to finish. I loved that we spent plenty of time doing introductions…name, how we heard about it, what we expect or how we’d know that we “got” what we needed by the end. I remember sharing that I originally registered because I felt disconnected from a part of myself. Last year I stepped into clothes free life, and with that clothes free yoga. A number of more tenured women in the clothes free yoga world have this whole power goddess thing about them, and I didn’t get it, I was like, “what is a goddess? all this talk about beauty and blah blah blah” I didn’t feel like I was like them, didn’t feel feminine, didn’t feel expressed in my full self. I love that you offered for consideration that sometimes people think about things in terms of femininity and how women “need” to get in touch with it, but that I might consider that maybe it’s OK to be masculine. I also appreciated your note that, in a bigger context, you named the workshop the way you did, [Pelvis Basin of Power & Surrender] because you didn’t want people to get hung up on masculine / feminine” and whatever stories they have around those concepts. That point freed me up to not “try” to get what I thought I should get out of the workshop, but to be open to whatever comes organically.
All of the exercises and conversations we did were a huge help to me, the dancing, hip opening, sound and breath work as well as the discussions on anatomy and how the body integrates and works.
I know people talk about the tailbone and sits bones in yoga, as they did in my teacher training this past year, but I’ve never actually taken my fingers, woven through my cheeks, and literally TOUCHED my tailbone with my own fingers! It took me a while to find it through all this ass!!! Your help was much appreciated, as I finally located it and was like Eureka!!!
The work we did at the end also made a huge difference for me. I remember that before demonstrating you set an intention, and I was like WUT?! Set an intention?!?! I’ve never set an intention before doing this. I’d just do it.
After taking in the demonstration, I felt really full, like there was something weighing on my heart. And so when it was our turn to work, I lied there on the floor, not really sure what to expect or what I’d feel. But I set my intention on the thing that is most important to me for humanity, that people feel safe and free to live in their true self expression.
I thought everything I would feel and experience would be strictly in the vaginal canal, but no. I rocked my pelvis about a bit, and then when you began to cue deep breathing into the belly and chest, and that’s when I started to unleash. I could feel a kind of energy rising up through my belly, and it almost felt like my ribs were gonna crack open as I breathed deep and expansive in my chest. My eyes began to flutter uncontrollably, which they’ve never done before in my life, and as they fluttered I saw flashes of 2 specific people in my life who had shared some very deep, very personal, very secret things about themselves with me. And as their images flashed so potently in me, I breathed deep into my chest, my heart exploded, and my body went into full outburst and I saw like a kind of gold river break out of my head through the crown and gush all over these 2 people, like a blessing on them to just be who they are, freely. I cried and screamed in release. I felt like I was quaking the walls with uninhibited blessing for those 2 people.
It was so amazing to me that this kind of energy could be used for more than just “getting off.” I’ve never set an intention like that before, and I thought it would be weird. But actually, I felt this amazing experience where I reconnected with my deepest passion in terms of what I want for humanity, that this experience and expression could be more than just about me. That’s what floored me, that it could be more than just “Joyce getting off” Rather a complete commitment and intention for something great and to channel my energy so powerfully and shoot it out of my crown in a golden river flooding those people with a kind of love. I felt like I reconnected to my ministry, to my passion, to compassion, to something greater than myself, to causes.
Afterwards, I found myself walking the streets of DC without resentment. Rather, I saw the people around me with new eyes, with compassion, with love, with good will and wanting only the best for them. I’ve never walked the streets here this way. It was amazing.
This morning I spent some time just kind of being with myself. I thought about what we did yesterday, and actually set the intention to be with myself, to feel my body, to be who I am. I never do that. It caused a significant arousal for me, which I didn’t know was possible, and then I had a kind of creative spark that has fueled my productivity at the office today.
It seems like I’m starting to feel more like a myself that was buried deep down. I feel more connected to something powerful inside and more fully expressed as Joyce.
So thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart, for providing that space and opportunity. I hope you have a great evening and safe travels to wherever the road goes next!
Tons of hugs,
Joyce

Grounding: the Subtle Revolution

rootingposeSlowing down… the soul has a different timing.  I cannot direct it by the list of events in my calendar.  But the more I Ground, I can listen to what is ripe and ready in my soul.

The first retreat in my Sacred Woman Alchemy 6 Month Program was dedicated to a full day of Grounding.  I am inspired to share some of it with you here as I witness the impact it has made in our group.  Look out NYC, we are about to engage with the Earth on a whole new level!

I am noticing that many of the clients coming to me right now are deeply passionate, high energy, highly intuitive, and that Grounding is important for them to have ease in their physcial, sexual, and financial life.  Grounding supports a consistency in their priorities that brings ideas into real actions.  Faith is inspiring, but grounded faith is inspiring and accountable.

I remember that several years into my “shamanic” and energy trainings I started studying bioenergetics with Teeni Dakini.  She pointed out how many trainings explore the advanced energy skills without first mastering basic grounding.  My life has not been the same since.  Thank you, Teeni!

Grounding is a state that becomes easier to access the more we practice.  In fact, it’s worth noting that some things like drugs, alcohol, compulsive sex can feel enjoyable and the more we engage them, the more we want more of them.  Now with Grounding, it may take a while to really drop in when we start.  But once we learn this new state, it takes less and less to access this rejuvenating state.  You know the feeling when you are running around the city in rush hour and you feel hungry, you have to pee, and then you finally get to your doorstep, and you are HOME.  Imagine if we could feel at home in our body at any time.  This is Grounding.

Nobody can tell you what it feels like to be Grounded.  Each of us has a unique felt sense of Grounding, and it can change from time to time.  Often when my clients experience Grounding for the first time they have a lot of uncomfortable sensations that their body has been waiting to communicate with them.   I consider Grounding energetic hygiene.  Think what you might discover if you clean your room for the first time in a few years.

While it can seem safer to tune out and disassociate, especially in response to trauma, we are actually the most safe when we are present in the sensations of our body here now.  

Grounding is the foundation for cultivating attention and intention.  In this information age, especially for those of us living in an urban setting, it is revolutionary.  The things we can collectively envision and transform will be completely different in a Grounded society.  The trauma’s we can release from our bodies, and the pleasure we can be present for in our lives will be on a whole new level.  I have been hearing that we collectively are becoming more intuitive.  If this is true, we need the skills to integrate in our physical being, relationships, and actions this new “download” of energy and information.

Our relationship to the Earth will become an embodied experience, rather than a strategy we sometimes think about when a “natural disaster” hits.

This is the subtle revolution.

Image by Irene Dowd from Taking Root to Fly

Image by Irene Dowd from Taking Root to Fly

As the founder of Love Making Dances, I am interested in how we need to stand on the Earth together to evolve the legacy of love and sexuality.  I am struck by the recent statistics demonstrating a rise in c-sections and breech babies resulting from the computer posture our mama’s have today.  This trend in major surgery upon the birthing of the next generation has stemmed from the narrowing of our pelvic cavity as a culture, tucking our tales under in seats at a desk.  Fetuses are actually flipping so they have room higher in the torso which leads to a more challenging birthing process.  Imagine that when we ground, when we broaden the basin of our pelvis and allow our energy to descend all the way down our legs… not only can babies have space inside us, WE can have space inside us.

Now that was the big picture.  I’m going to drop down into a very concrete voice as we venture deep into the soles of our feet.

How can we tell when we are not grounded? 

Often we will feel headaches, spacy, tranced out, disoriented in our life.  This can feel enjoyable temporarily but then it’s difficult to transition to the next activity after a peak experience.  We can also feel a sense of energetic collapse after ungrounded ecstasy.  I’ve noticed that without Grounding we can lose a sense of a container and this feeds consumerism and materialism because we lose the felt sense of having and being full.

In the Grounding Training

In the Grounding training we work with the 26 bones of each foot.  We venture deep into the architecture of our bones, our breath, and our dynamic relating with gravity.  We release tension in the physical body, unclumping and refining our experience of each muscle.  We feel and surrender the muscles so they can be supported by the bones.  We learn the muscles that habitually come to the rescue to hold us up and redirect that extra energy as they learn to release and trust.  Grounding changes the neuromuscular system and the energetic body to be more efficient and supported.  It taught me that I had been confusing adrenaline for life force energy.

I feel inspired to share this quote from Anodea Judith whom I have had the pleasure of studying with:

“Many people who cannot find their true path in life have simply not yet found their ground.  Sometimes they are busy looking up instead of down, where the feet meet the path…”

To learn about upcoming trainings, online courses, and teleconferences on Grounding and Energy Skills visit www.LoveMakingDances.com.  A powerful way to Ground is Esalen Massage, to learn more about this art or schedule a session click here.

Love Making Dances Class

Last night we had our first Love Making Dances Class at Solstice Studio.

There is warmth in my body.  My muscles feel supple.  My feet are relaxed and held by the tremendous Earth.  I feel a profound innocence in our circle as we stand here with closed eyes.  We’ve been dancing the past 50 minutes and here in the silence between songs we are seemingly still.  Our breath is deep and in harmony with the rhythms we have just been hearing.  The taste in my mouth has become sweet.  My mind is clear and gentle with me.  My intuition is tuned to high and the things in my life that I desire to serve are present and simple… touch and move people to experience love and awe.

The music starts, Miriam Makeba sings with us through the speakers.  We sway our hips side to side and drop our heels down into the Earth.  We are harvesting from the land.  We could be transported from the inncense and latern lights in this manhattan Solstice Studio to the sunny artichoke fields of California, or the sandy gardens in Dakar, Senegal where I danced years ago.  This is the universal body bowing to the Earth and harvesting that which nourishes us.  I am not really “teaching” these steps.  I am remembering from one culture to the next, and pointing out the instincts we embody.  We know ourselves more deeply when we dance our dances.  Planting, harvesting, coming of age, courting, mating, birting, healing, dying… Love, makes all these dances for us.

I open the circle to ask the dancers why they have come.  A man speaks about watching the children dance at a party.  As he speaks he starts dancing, his excitement cannot be hidden.   “I want to be free like the child,” he says.

I look around the circle.  We are big kids here tonight with such laughter in our eyes.

Everything seems possible in this vibrant space.  The fatigue has dissolved.  It feels like a first date with God/Goddess. I am giddy.  I can’t wait to be touched and yet I am, every part of my body is touched by Life.

Bliss in the Sun

If you would like to join us Mondays in March at Solstice Studio, 8:30 – 9:45 pm, you can sign up here!  Drop ins are welcome.

Women’s Dance & Sexuality for the Soul

Oh!  I’m soooo thrilled to offer a 6 month training for women.  It will be starting in February and it will ripen us with the warming of the seasons.  This will include biweekly private coaching sessions and six monthly group rituals.  We will be learning the psychic anatomy of a woman, the alchemy of sexual energy, shamanic energy skills…
I am visioning it now and I’ve been so moved by hearing the things YOU want to learn.  Some of what I’m hearing from you is here.  I’ve created this post explicitly for the purpose of gathering your wishes.  Please comment here what you would like!
  • movement that helps feeling safe and happy in the body
  • movement that leads to openess, agility, mobility and fluidity
  • movement that energizes, uplifts
  • movement that makes me feel alive vibrant and ecstatic
  • movement that is s delicious that i can’t help doing it every day !
  • movement that gets me in touch with my beauty and power and radiance
  • movement that makes me take the full space that is mine
  • movement that makes me express all that i am without fear or passive range !
  • movement that makes me naturally align with the innate wisdom and intelligence of my own body !
  • movement that doesn’t feel like exercise but instead organic language of my being!

How can I serve you?