Working with Zahava created a soft openness and delicious awareness of my inner strength, balance and beauty.- Isabella, Massage Therapist, Yoga Instructor, Health Coach
I can happily say working with Zahava was one of the most profound spiritual journeys I’ve had the good fortune of experiencing in my life.- Diana Ferrante, Women’s Empowerment Leader, Intuitive Advisor
Zahava's work has returned me to the natural state of being my most loving and most beloved self. - Emily Tepper, Receptivity Coach & Craniosacral Therapist
This was exactly what I needed to rebalance myself. I was able to release the week’s stress and gain confidence in being the clear minded and moving bodied me that I want to be. - An overworking teacher
Zahava gave me the nurturing excavation tools to my inner realms that have been yearning to moan, be touched, to be remembered, honored, revered, and celebrated.- Jennifer Maeve
This work not only supported me grounding in my own feminine experience, but it translated into my work as a coach--allowing a new depth of connection with my clients and their own sacred and sexual journeys.- Dana, Certified Life Coach
Thank you for holding and creating such beautiful space for my own feminine to unfold and reveal herself to me through my body.- Elizabeth Joy Mueller, Business Coach & Intuitive Guide

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Getting Your SEXXY ON While White

So grateful to be featured as a guest writer for the Body is Not an Apology, fostering radical unapologetic self love and transforming the politics of invisibility.  Check out my post here!  Thank you Sonya Renee Taylor for being a visionary in this movement and inviting my voice!

 

Pelvis: Basin of Alchemy for Dancers

photo by Monique Torok

My pelvis has been on a journey.  I asked her to externally rotate and lift for the better part of 20 years while I was immersed in ballet.  I didn’t know the energetic repercussions of these actions.  But I did know that I cultivated way more sexual energy than my personality was comfortable expressing at the time.  I also started having tendonitis in my feet.

Now I have no injuries, which is rare for someone who’s been dancing 30 years.  I now understand the connection of the feet and the pelvis.  I also have learned that the pelvis is a tremendous gateway to intuition and heart opening, not to mention the next generation.  I’ve worked with many sexual abuse survivors, pregnant women, midwives, sexuality educators, and I have witnessed the ability of the pelvis to alchemize wounds into ecstasy, pain into forgiveness, tension into trust.

This weekend I’m so excited to bring this work to the Theatrical Bellydance Conference!  We will be looking at the physical and energetic anatomy of the pelvis.  I am starting to call this the “psychic hokey pokey.”  Energy follows our intention!

I love sharing how the intricate muscles of the pelvis support our vital organs and weave with the same complexity as our facial muscles.  I’ve heard too often that “kegels” are about stopping the flow of urine.  But that would be akin to saying that facial expressions are like squeezing everything into a tight pucker and then releasing… and missing the nuances of happy, stunned, surprised…  We can move our tailbone, we can isolate the right and left halves of the pelvic diamond floor, we can lift and tilt our womb.  These deep gestures of the regenerative organs flood us with sensation, and sensation brings us into presence.

Our time together at the conference will be brief, as there are many incredible presenters sharing the day.  So I will be offering a longer workshop in the next coming weeks.  I’ve created this blog to gather your questions and comments so I can address them in the next workshop.

Grounding: the Subtle Revolution

rootingposeSlowing down… the soul has a different timing.  I cannot direct it by the list of events in my calendar.  But the more I Ground, I can listen to what is ripe and ready in my soul.

The first retreat in my Sacred Woman Alchemy 6 Month Program was dedicated to a full day of Grounding.  I am inspired to share some of it with you here as I witness the impact it has made in our group.  Look out NYC, we are about to engage with the Earth on a whole new level!

I am noticing that many of the clients coming to me right now are deeply passionate, high energy, highly intuitive, and that Grounding is important for them to have ease in their physcial, sexual, and financial life.  Grounding supports a consistency in their priorities that brings ideas into real actions.  Faith is inspiring, but grounded faith is inspiring and accountable.

I remember that several years into my “shamanic” and energy trainings I started studying bioenergetics with Teeni Dakini.  She pointed out how many trainings explore the advanced energy skills without first mastering basic grounding.  My life has not been the same since.  Thank you, Teeni!

Grounding is a state that becomes easier to access the more we practice.  In fact, it’s worth noting that some things like drugs, alcohol, compulsive sex can feel enjoyable and the more we engage them, the more we want more of them.  Now with Grounding, it may take a while to really drop in when we start.  But once we learn this new state, it takes less and less to access this rejuvenating state.  You know the feeling when you are running around the city in rush hour and you feel hungry, you have to pee, and then you finally get to your doorstep, and you are HOME.  Imagine if we could feel at home in our body at any time.  This is Grounding.

Nobody can tell you what it feels like to be Grounded.  Each of us has a unique felt sense of Grounding, and it can change from time to time.  Often when my clients experience Grounding for the first time they have a lot of uncomfortable sensations that their body has been waiting to communicate with them.   I consider Grounding energetic hygiene.  Think what you might discover if you clean your room for the first time in a few years.

While it can seem safer to tune out and disassociate, especially in response to trauma, we are actually the most safe when we are present in the sensations of our body here now.  

Grounding is the foundation for cultivating attention and intention.  In this information age, especially for those of us living in an urban setting, it is revolutionary.  The things we can collectively envision and transform will be completely different in a Grounded society.  The trauma’s we can release from our bodies, and the pleasure we can be present for in our lives will be on a whole new level.  I have been hearing that we collectively are becoming more intuitive.  If this is true, we need the skills to integrate in our physical being, relationships, and actions this new “download” of energy and information.

Our relationship to the Earth will become an embodied experience, rather than a strategy we sometimes think about when a “natural disaster” hits.

This is the subtle revolution.

Image by Irene Dowd from Taking Root to Fly

Image by Irene Dowd from Taking Root to Fly

As the founder of Love Making Dances, I am interested in how we need to stand on the Earth together to evolve the legacy of love and sexuality.  I am struck by the recent statistics demonstrating a rise in c-sections and breech babies resulting from the computer posture our mama’s have today.  This trend in major surgery upon the birthing of the next generation has stemmed from the narrowing of our pelvic cavity as a culture, tucking our tales under in seats at a desk.  Fetuses are actually flipping so they have room higher in the torso which leads to a more challenging birthing process.  Imagine that when we ground, when we broaden the basin of our pelvis and allow our energy to descend all the way down our legs… not only can babies have space inside us, WE can have space inside us.

Now that was the big picture.  I’m going to drop down into a very concrete voice as we venture deep into the soles of our feet.

How can we tell when we are not grounded? 

Often we will feel headaches, spacy, tranced out, disoriented in our life.  This can feel enjoyable temporarily but then it’s difficult to transition to the next activity after a peak experience.  We can also feel a sense of energetic collapse after ungrounded ecstasy.  I’ve noticed that without Grounding we can lose a sense of a container and this feeds consumerism and materialism because we lose the felt sense of having and being full.

In the Grounding Training

In the Grounding training we work with the 26 bones of each foot.  We venture deep into the architecture of our bones, our breath, and our dynamic relating with gravity.  We release tension in the physical body, unclumping and refining our experience of each muscle.  We feel and surrender the muscles so they can be supported by the bones.  We learn the muscles that habitually come to the rescue to hold us up and redirect that extra energy as they learn to release and trust.  Grounding changes the neuromuscular system and the energetic body to be more efficient and supported.  It taught me that I had been confusing adrenaline for life force energy.

I feel inspired to share this quote from Anodea Judith whom I have had the pleasure of studying with:

“Many people who cannot find their true path in life have simply not yet found their ground.  Sometimes they are busy looking up instead of down, where the feet meet the path…”

To learn about upcoming trainings, online courses, and teleconferences on Grounding and Energy Skills visit www.LoveMakingDances.com.  A powerful way to Ground is Esalen Massage, to learn more about this art or schedule a session click here.

I’m a Kid in the Candy Store, and We Are the Candy!

I recently attended a day long conference with the most inspiring creative entrepreneurs.  This “Mastermind” event was hosted by Move the Crowd, an entrepreneurial training company dedicated to helping the next generation “stay true, get paid, and do good.”

Now let me tell you that most of the folks in this room are like me, artists, healers, social visionaries, activists… This is not your regular business training crowd.  AND let me also say that the presenters and facilitators have been selected because they speak their truth and they are undeniably living in alignment with their soul gifts.  To say that my relationship to money has transformed since joining this community, would be an understatement.  My relationship to… who I am, my awareness of my soul gifts, and my refinement of how I want to create an impact on the world around me… have transformed.

What moves me the most about this community is the genuine curiosity about who each other are.  Now I’ve been teaching naked yoga classes for years.  And the level of trust and vulnerability in this room is a whole other level of naked.  This is when we show up and share what we dare to care so deeply about, the essence of why we are here.  As Barbara Stanny posed the question, “What would give me the greatest pleasure to be remember for?”   This is not just a financial revolution happening amongst my peers, this is our new spiritual practice, Barbara says.  The room was listening from our core, we knew that the legacy opportunities before us were about to be taken to the next level.  My God how we listened.  We became so beautiful as we shared our ventures, our challenges, our goals, our feedback and creative suggestions.  I felt like a kid in the candy store and we are the candy.

I want to say something about Love.  I am more clear than ever that Love moves people and touches people through me.  This is why I am here.  I am restoring the lineage of dance as a ritual for transformation and community health.  I am restoring the lineage of sex as the intersection of body and spirit — that set up this agreement for us to be here — and that can be resourced to deepen our purpose and our passion for it.  This is the root of my offerings through LOVE MAKING DANCES.

I have been reflecting on my communities of performing artists and sexuality educators.  I am contemplating the 3 stages of financial development that Barbara mentioned:

  1. Survival
  2. Stability
  3. Affluence

I’m realizing that these stages are not just about individuals.  These stages can also be applied to my communities.   I would say that often we have been relating to each other from the Surivival paradigm.  I’m visioning deeply what we can offer when we are living with affluence.  I’m visioning the performances we will create and the presence we will have with our clients.  I am visioning the commitment we will have to each others’ success, the time we will invest in getting to truly know each other, and the creativity that will abound in our curriculum.

It’s time.

Thank you Rha Goddess for creating Move the Crowd.  Thank you for showing me a template for community with deep inner resources and such love.

I’m noticing that the women in my Sacred Woman Alchemy program are shifting.  What started as a personal journey about self care has evolved into a converesation about how we want to share and direct this life force energy we are cultivating.  I trust this process so deeply.

I am seeing 3 parallel stages:

  1. Survival in the body
  2. Safety in the body
  3. Body as an instrument of life force and creative expression

As we release the impact of trauma on the nervous system and learn how to direct our energy, we are naturally stepping into a generous inquiry about what we are here to contribute.

Love Making Dances Class

Last night we had our first Love Making Dances Class at Solstice Studio.

There is warmth in my body.  My muscles feel supple.  My feet are relaxed and held by the tremendous Earth.  I feel a profound innocence in our circle as we stand here with closed eyes.  We’ve been dancing the past 50 minutes and here in the silence between songs we are seemingly still.  Our breath is deep and in harmony with the rhythms we have just been hearing.  The taste in my mouth has become sweet.  My mind is clear and gentle with me.  My intuition is tuned to high and the things in my life that I desire to serve are present and simple… touch and move people to experience love and awe.

The music starts, Miriam Makeba sings with us through the speakers.  We sway our hips side to side and drop our heels down into the Earth.  We are harvesting from the land.  We could be transported from the inncense and latern lights in this manhattan Solstice Studio to the sunny artichoke fields of California, or the sandy gardens in Dakar, Senegal where I danced years ago.  This is the universal body bowing to the Earth and harvesting that which nourishes us.  I am not really “teaching” these steps.  I am remembering from one culture to the next, and pointing out the instincts we embody.  We know ourselves more deeply when we dance our dances.  Planting, harvesting, coming of age, courting, mating, birting, healing, dying… Love, makes all these dances for us.

I open the circle to ask the dancers why they have come.  A man speaks about watching the children dance at a party.  As he speaks he starts dancing, his excitement cannot be hidden.   “I want to be free like the child,” he says.

I look around the circle.  We are big kids here tonight with such laughter in our eyes.

Everything seems possible in this vibrant space.  The fatigue has dissolved.  It feels like a first date with God/Goddess. I am giddy.  I can’t wait to be touched and yet I am, every part of my body is touched by Life.

Bliss in the Sun

If you would like to join us Mondays in March at Solstice Studio, 8:30 – 9:45 pm, you can sign up here!  Drop ins are welcome.

Women’s Dance & Sexuality for the Soul

Oh!  I’m soooo thrilled to offer a 6 month training for women.  It will be starting in February and it will ripen us with the warming of the seasons.  This will include biweekly private coaching sessions and six monthly group rituals.  We will be learning the psychic anatomy of a woman, the alchemy of sexual energy, shamanic energy skills…
I am visioning it now and I’ve been so moved by hearing the things YOU want to learn.  Some of what I’m hearing from you is here.  I’ve created this post explicitly for the purpose of gathering your wishes.  Please comment here what you would like!
  • movement that helps feeling safe and happy in the body
  • movement that leads to openess, agility, mobility and fluidity
  • movement that energizes, uplifts
  • movement that makes me feel alive vibrant and ecstatic
  • movement that is s delicious that i can’t help doing it every day !
  • movement that gets me in touch with my beauty and power and radiance
  • movement that makes me take the full space that is mine
  • movement that makes me express all that i am without fear or passive range !
  • movement that makes me naturally align with the innate wisdom and intelligence of my own body !
  • movement that doesn’t feel like exercise but instead organic language of my being!

How can I serve you?